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Fashion

2009-06-12T00:09:00.006+07:00

How often do you encounter a situation when selection of the right kind of fashion accessory makes you go wild? Some women have such dilemmas once in a while, some once in a week, and some of them go through this daily. The question bugs ? Do I look different?, Do I look attractive enough?

Sometimes you often wonder, why do some women become the epitome of fashion whereas some strive for little appreciation even after wearing an expensive diamond necklace.

Well, I believe that beauty is not the cause. For I have noticed some of the most charming ladies being bugged with similar kinds of hassles. The reason is, most women simply follow the stereotyped fashion trends and do not get noticed among the crowd.

The idea is, that you have to dress differently in order to look different. I guess, jewelry happens to be an important part of fashion. Therefore it is necessary that you make some changes in your jewelry box.

To start with, I must say, that simple elegant jewelries are out. Gone are the days of a simple chain with a diamond pendant. Ladies are no longer totems of sophistication. Just try out something much more dashing. Accumulate at least ten to twelve black colored chains of similar look and size. Jumble them together and flaunt it at your slender neck. They would very well complement each other.

When you try to look different, there is no harm in being a little more adventurous. One of the latest trends among fashion freaks is to try out something Bohemian. And when it come to Bohemian fashion, there is nothing like a candlenut necklace. The candlenuts, commonly known as Kukui nuts, are strung together in a string or a ribbon and tied in knot. Black happens to be the most popular color. However other colors like green, brown are also in vogue. The Kukui nut jewelries can be worn as necklace and also as bracelets.

You know what, I have always admired fashion conscious ladies since my early teenage. I still remember how my young English teacher at the high school adorned her ears with long wooden danglers. As she moved her head sideways while explaining the lessons, the danglers simply danced around her beautiful ears and caught our attention for an entire hour. Later on, I came to know that such wooden danglers can be easily made at home. All you have to do is cut out two stripes of reasonable length from a piece of ply and smoothen them with a sandpaper. Make sure you get the edges rounded. Drill small holes in each of them and attach a jump ring at it and attach it again with a hook. And there you are! That would look elegant as well as dandy!

Now while we discuss about fashion jewelries, how can the beads be left behind? You can make simple beaded earrings at home. Just grab a headpin, and put inside some beads of various colors. But the colors should be well synchronized. Get a round-nose plier and bend the extended portion of the earring at an angle of ninety degree. Bend the end of the headpin and complete the loop. Attach it with a French wire. And you are done with it.

If you are quite innovative, you can try this one too. Boil some eggs and peel off the outer hard layer. Make sure that the thin film inside is also removed. Coat them with two parts of epoxy coupled with a chemical hardener. Get a ceramic tile and coat it with petroleum jelly. Rest the egg shells over it and get them dried. After sometime, cut them out in different shapes and paint it with a nail polish. Once again you may implement some of your innovative skills by painting them with different colors. Drill a small hole and attach a jump ring.

I shall be happy if you like my ideas and try them out. But I would be happier if you discard them and try something different that comes to your mind.

After all, fashion is not about following the latest trends of market. Fashion is all about flaunting your own style that would reflect your own personality. Sometimes, the jewelry you wear may not go hand in hand with your personality. But once you are confident about your accessories, you can simply flaunt anything under the sun.

So what are you ladies waiting for? Just get going, full speed ahead!

Jessica Parker/Fashion Expert

Wanita Seksi Cenderung Selingkuh?

2009-05-18T00:31:00.005+07:00

Menurut KapanLagi.com bahwa perempuan dengan hormon utama seks yang berkadar tinggi akan merasa lebih punya daya tarik dan lebih condong berselingkuh, ungkap studi yang dipublikasikan pada hari Rabu.

Kristina Durante dan Norman Li, psikolog dari University of Texas, menemukan bahwa perempuan yang punya hormon oestradiol konsentrasi tinggi lebih besar kemungkinannya untuk menggoda, mencium, dan berselingkuh dari hubungan yang sudah mantap.

Dalam studi yang diterbitkan pada jurnal Inggris Biology Letters, keduanya menggambarkan perilaku tersebut sebagai serial monogami yang oportunistik dan tidak ada kaitannya dengan kencan satu malam.

Mereka memperkirakan perempuan seperti itu punya kemungkinan lebih besar untuk terdorong melepas hubungan yang ada — demi mendapatkan pasangan yang lebih baik.

Studi lainnya mengenai oestradiol menunjukkan bahwa kadar tinggi dari hormon tersebut punya kaitan erat dengan kesuburan.

Akibatnya, kata beberapa peneliti, laki-laki punya respon yang meningkat dan mendorong mereka untuk menyambut tanda-tanda kehadiran hormon itu.

Durante dan Li mengukur tingkat hormon di dua tahap siklus menstruasi pada 52 perempuan berusia antara 17 dan 30 tahun.

Para perempuan itu diminta memberi peringkat terhadap daya tarik sendiri maupun keseksian masing-masing dibanding perempuan lain. Selain itu mereka ditugaskan memberi peringkat atas kepuasan dengan pasangan saat ini,kesediaan melakukan seks tanpa komitmen, dan mengenai hubungan mereka sebelumnya.

Secara terpisah, satu kelompok laki-laki dan perempuan yang tidak sadar adanya percobaan itu, mengevaluasi foto-foto para perempuan tersebut lalu memberi peringkat berdasarkan daya tarik.

Perempuan dengan tingkat oestradiol tertinggi berada dalam peringkat teratasi dan punya kemungkinan lebih besar terlibat perselingkuhan serius.

Mereka juga punya lebih banyak hubungan jangka panjang di masa lalu.

Studi tersebut menyatakan daya tarik yang berhubungan dengan oestradiol memberikan peluang dalam meraih pasangan.

Laki-laki bersaing untuk mendapatkan perempuan yang lebih seksi sedangkan perempuan menginginkan pasangan yang lebih mampu menyangga hidupnya serta merawatnya.

“Perempuan harus memilih antara hubungan jangka panjang yang memberi jaminan materi terus menerus, hubungan bersama pasangan yang lebih menarik secara fisik, atau pasangan seks jangka pendek dengan sumber genetik yang bagus,” tulis Durante dan Li. Perempuan dengan tingkat oestradiol lebih tinggi mungkin tidak punya banyak alasan untuk berkomitmen dengan pasangannya jika menemukan calon baru yang punya kualitas lebih tinggi.

6 Classic Hairstyles that Never Fail

2009-05-14T13:16:00.004+07:00

Hairstyles come and hairstyles go, but if you are looking for a never fail hairstyle, go in for some true and tried classics that are here to stay. We give you our all time favorite hairstyles and how to achieve the look in a jiffy. A point necessary to mention is that we have left out the classic straight look for any length of hair which in itself is a never fail classic look for any face.

1. Layers: Layers were in much before Jennifer Aniston started sporting them in 'Friends' bringing to the world the 'Rachel' look. Whether you get your layers curled in or out, whether you have layers in your medium length hair or long hair, layers are simply the most chic look to hit the fashion scene.

Try some of our favorite looks in layered hairstyles:

2. Ponytails: Angelina Jolie does it with her long locks, Charlize Theron does it to her medium length waves and even Beyonce Knowles, Jennifer Aniston and Keira Knightley sport it often. The classic ponytail and its numerous variations never fail to please. Although most celebrities today sport high ponytails, low, mini, stacked and looped ponytails are often seen and never really went out of fashion.

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3. Long Waves: Long hair can become boring for some but there is simply nothing to beat the look of sexy waves in long hair. You never need to follow the season or a trend to sport this look.

Try some of our favorite looks in long wavy styles:

4. Long Curls: Another long hair favorite is curls. It is hard to imagine any era of fashion without curly long hair. Some of the hottest celebrities sport this look and so does your next door good looking neighbor and the college prom queen!

Here are our favorites to try:

Elegant Curls

Debra Messing

Kate Hudson

5. The Bob Cut: I remember my Mom getting me a short Bob cut to make things manageable. Bobs have been in since long and are too versatile and stylish to get outdated soon. From chin length to shoulder length, choose a Bob that suits you. It turned Nicole Ritchie into a fashion diva overnight and it could do the same for you!

Nicole Ritchie

Kelly Clarkson

Charlize Theron

6. Classic Updos: Long or medium length hair has been beautifully treated through ages by sweeping the hair up in exotic and funky fashions. From the tight buns to elegant curled arrangements to buns and twists, anything 'up done' has always been very classy. The only change to affect this classic hairstyle is that it has emerged from a solely formal hair arrangement to one that can safely be sported at any party. Still, it is really very easy to spot which updos are appropriate for formal events and which ones for more informal ones.

Moving Beyond Your Divorce

2009-05-07T22:57:00.003+07:00

There is no single more powerful stumbling block to moving beyond our divorce into a new life than the inability to accept our new reality. Acceptance is the hardest part of the divorce recovery process. Acceptance requires total honesty, courage and the willingness to let go of the life that we had...a life that no longer exists. Without that acceptance, we cannot move forward and create a new life.

How does one learn acceptance? Although it takes time and a good deal of inner work, it can be done. Here is a step-by-step guide to move you towards acceptance:

1) It’s about you, not them.

One of the most powerful lessons in life is the knowledge that we have control over one person and one person only…ourselves. If you are looking outside of yourself to move forward, you won’t. We can’t change anyone but ourselves. We have power over no one except ourselves. It is when we turn inward and do the work on ourselves that we will be able to effect dramatic and positive changes in our lives.

Being a victim means giving away all control and power. If I blame someone else for my situation, then I am powerless to do anything about it as I have chosen to absolve myself of any responsibility.

We can create changes that will make out lives better but not until we stop trying to change our ex or our current reality and we realize that it’s about us, not them.

2) Get support.

If you think you can do this all by yourself you may be in for a big surprise. Research consistently shows that getting support in any challenging endeavor leads to more success. Whether you choose a divorce support group, a therapist, a member of the clergy or a Life Coach, just do it.

If you are one of the those people who think that you have to handle life’s challenges on your own because somehow you equate support with weakness, get over it! Getting support is a sign of intelligence as far as I’m concerned as well as an indication that you really are serious about moving onward in life.

3) First, you must get through the initial stages of loss that includes denial, grief, anger, depression and whatever else you might be feeling early in the divorce process.

These emotions are all natural and necessary states that we need to experience. They are the norm versus the exception. Each one of these feelings needs to be embraced and experienced fully. There must be an ending before a new beginning.

There is a difference between fully experiencing an emotional stage and getting stuck in it. Beware excessive self-pity and real depression. Here is where support becomes important to your well-being and improvement.

4) Distinguish between facts and interpretations.

I cannot stress the importance of this step enough. People get stuck when they cannot face the facts and prefer to believe that their personal interpretations are reality.

You might be familiar with the exercise of the picture that has a hidden image within it. Ten people may come up with ten different interpretations of the picture. Some people will see the hidden image immediately and others will never see it until it is pointed out to them. Either way, the hidden picture exists. It is a fact.

You may feel that you have been mentally abused and yet your partner may feel that you are the one that is abusive. He said, she said. Probably a counselor will see a totally different picture altogether. You know, there’s your side, his side and then the truth.

Once you are truthful with yourself and can see the facts versus the drama or story of your divorce, you will be on your way to acceptance.

5) Be brutally honest and take responsibility for your marriage, divorce and life.

Those of us who can be totally honest with ourselves will receive the gift of a deep awareness of who and what we are along with the ability to accept our lives as they are without looking to blame someone else. Being honest allows us to see things that hadn’t existed for us before. The truth will indeed set you free. By setting aside our egos, we can look at our life for what it actually is versus a story about our divorce.

Once we have been honest and have embraced all the facts about our divorce, we are free to accept full responsibility for our lives. Responsibility is power and the freedom to choose what we want next in life. If we cannot take responsibility, we remain victims and victims absolve themselves of both their responsibility and therefore the power to control their own lives.

6) Learn the difference between what is and what you think should be.

If we are living in a netherland of what we think should be, we are completely cut off from reality or ‘what is’. If you think that you should not have to be experiencing divorce, then you cannot accept what is…that you are indeed getting divorced. You live in a world of your own.

We all create a list of should be’s that keep us stuck in the status quo: I should be happier, I should be getting more support, I shouldn’t have to work, and I should still be married. By concentrating on what we should be, we ignore what actually exists for us and remain stuck.

I think we should live in a world where peace is the predominant ethic but we don’t live in that world. That’s a dream I have. By acknowledging the world as it truly exists, I can make choices as to how I will live my life and also how to address the problems that do exist.

7) Consider the emotional wounds that you brought to the marriage.

Your ex may complain that you were not a warm person. I doubt that it was your marriage that created a cold person, if indeed that is what you are. We bring ourselves into our marriages and the parts of us that show up and create issues are the parts of us that we haven’t addressed yet. They are emotional wounds from somewhere in our past and they have a tendency to pop-up in our close relationships or when we are faced with challenging times.

Now is your chance to address those wounds and heal them so that you do not repeat your so-called mistakes again. Use your divorce as a catalyst to go inside and heal yourself.

8) Release toxic emotions.

Get rid of the debilitating toxic emotions that you are carrying around. Picture them as heavy baggage that keeps you stuck in your misery and produces a broken back. Anger, bitterness, hatred, resentment, rage…these are all toxic emotions that will harm you far more than your ex. You are the one who pays the price. You need to work through them and then release them because they will weigh you down for the rest of your life if you allow it.

Once you have done the work of truth versus interpretations and what is versus what should be, you will find it much easier to give up your anger and resentment. They do not serve you and you are learning to give away anything that does not serve you well.

9) Learn forgiveness for yourself and your mate.

You might not be able to practice forgiveness in the early stages of the journey to recovery but if you go through these other steps, you will be able to forigive your ex and more importantly, yourself. Forgiveness takes a big load off your shoulders. It releases energy that can be used for positive things.

Forgiveness does not necessarily mean you condone bad behavior, it simply means you forgive. If we separate the person from the behavior it becomes easier to forgive. You know that just because you sometimes say mean things it does not mean you are a bad person. Just a lapse in judgment. We are not necessarily our behavior. We know all the subconscious motivations that exist within every individual. If we look at the inner child within a person, forgiveness is a given.

10) Make conscious decisions; utilize free choice.

When you do the inner work of divorce recovery, you tend to attend to many things that have been left unresolved for years. You become more conscious of your actions and your choices. You become aware of the subconscious and how it can run your life. When you learn to observe the constant mind chatter that goes on inside your heads, you learn that the mind chatter is not us, its just chatter.

Making conscious decisions based in free choice means that we are not letting our mind chatter, our past, our emotional wounds or our interpretations of reality run the show. We take control of our lives. Conscious living allows for incredible freedom and the ability to create extraordinary changes.

And your bonus tip:

11) Find the gifts of your divorce.

Everything that occurs in our lives and everything that we are (warts and all) has a hidden gift. If you speak to someone who has survived divorce and has gone on to create a and vibrant life based upon their own passions and values, they will certainly tell you that their divorce was the best thing that happened to them. That may not be true for you but there is a gift waiting for you to find. My ex likes to say that he is responsible for my new career and to a certain extent he has played a part. Oftentimes it takes a good whack on the head to awaken us to life’s possibilities and our own happiness.

It’s the old adage: Every cloud has a silver lining. It is true. Search for the gifts of your divorce and it becomes yet another step toward a successful recovery from the trauma of divorce.

Successful divorce recovery takes inner work. Much like a flower, the work that has takes place underneath the surface of the ground, invisible to the human eye, is the crucial aspect. Without that subterranean work, there would be no flower. The reward of the flower is dependent upon the inner work of the seed and the root system. It is the same with humans. Do the inner work and you see the outer rewards.

by: Shelley Stile

Cangkurileung

2008-12-13T02:08:00.002+07:00

Dina wanci ieu loba nu teu apal yen Kota Bandung boga puspa jeung fauna nu jadi ciri khas nyaeta kembang patrakomala atawa kembang merak (Caesalpinia pulcherrima) jeung manuk cangkurileung atawa kutilang (Pycnonotus aurigaster). Apalna Kota Bandung teh "identik" jeung kota "factory outlet", kotana PERSIB, pernah oge aya sebutan kota sampah.

Sim kuring oge kakara apal teh saatosna maca tina berita di koran daerah. Biasa sok aya pro jeung kontra, kitu oge dina netepkeun ciri khas atawa maskot Kota Bandung. Anu kontra, teu setuju alesana diantarana kusabab duanana lain putra daerah alias asalna ti luar, cenah ari cangkurileung teh asalna ti daerah Cina Selatan jeung Asia Tenggara sedengkeun kembang merak asalna ti Amerika Selatan.

Tapi ku kituna sim kuring salaku Urang Bandung ngarasa prihatin ternyata masih osok nempo barudak boh kolot mamawa sumpit (sumplit?) dipake ngala manuk. Jeung ternyata maranehna teh ngan saukur iseng kusabab areuweuh gawe. Meni tragis.

Kabayang lamun di Kota Bandung bisa ngadangu sora manuk ting koceak, sora tonggeret silih tembalan, asa jaman bareto keur sim kuring budak keneh. Bareto mah euweuh carita aya nu kabanjiran siga jaman kiwari. Eta teh sabenerna kila-kila yen kahirupan khususna di Kota Bandung teh geus teu saimbang.

Balik deui kana manuk cangkurileung, kumaha rek bisa betah di Kota Bandung mun gawena di sumpitan atawa ditembakan? Komo deui mun tatangkalana di taluaran dijadikeun suluh? Kukituna hayu dulur-dulur urang Bandung, urang babarengan ngajaga kalestarian kota urang tina tangan-tangan jail jeung ti jalma nu teu baroga tanggung jawab.

Pesona

2008-11-27T02:18:00.006+07:00

Mojang dan Jajaka Bandung

2008-11-23T02:37:00.000+07:00

Mojang-mojang dan jajaka-jajaka bandung yang mau berkomunikasi silakan gabung disini.